Dating after 40

I often wish I had not said no so many times when I was 18 as I had no idea that there would be so little sex after 40!. I honestly don't know how it all happened, but all of a sudden I found myself an empty nester and alone--very alone. Yes-I tried the internet dating thing and 2 relationships and 35,000 dollars later I realized the only men on dating sites are poor, con-men and abusers. I have been through it all, from affairs(both sides), divorce, con-men, abusers, mental cases and everything in between. Hey I am a nice girl with a ton to offer the right man other than sex. When did men change so much? I think I had a lot more respect at 20 than I have since my divorce 15 years ago. All I want is a secure stable man who is self sufficient and does not hate women. I welcome all questions and comments--maybe we can figure this out together---My years of experience may save you pain, heartache and your bank account.